Let's see...off the top of my head, some books with stand out scenes like this (at least for me), are The Winter Prince by Elizabeth E. Wein, The Ocean at the End of the Lane by Neil Gaiman, The Monstrumologist by Rick Yancey (that one's pretty horror-focused and very gory, but if you've got a strong stomach it's also surprisingly emotional and has one of my very favorite YA platonic relationships), and Circe by Madeline Miller, which I'm actually in the middle of right now--I have some issues with certain aspects of it but there's a really excellent verbal confrontation scene between her and her sister. All of these books are pretty good with complicated, not-straightforwardly-liking-each-other dynamics, too.